Is it ok to go home to die?

Is it ever ok to send someone home to die?

I have been struggling with this question off and on for months now.  My MIL is in stable health.  Her medication is again on track.  She is mentally present.  She is also terribly homesick.  Moving to IL was never her idea and honestly we always thought that she would return home when the summer arrived.  Well, summer is here and we are unsure what to do.

On one hand she is in decent health for her age.  She needs her medication and she needs to have a full-time caregiver but we could get both of these in Indiana.  However, since October she has been in the emergency room more than a half a dozen times including two hospital stays.  More than one doctor has told us that she cannot live alone. It sounds pretty cut and dry when you read the above.  Obviously, she needs to stay in assisted living.  The problem is her mental state.  MIL is starting to fail due to depression.  She is deeply unhappy everytime that I visit.  She talks of how much work there is to do at home and how little there is to do here... how bored and unhappy she is... how everyone is always telling her what to do... how much she misses home.

Sending her home is a death sentence.  No question about it.  I don't think she could survive even with a caregiver.  I'm worried that keeping her here is also a death sentence, so the question is, which is more humane?  Which is the best decision?

I have no idea.